What is sexy?

That was the question my coworkers and I wrestled with today.



It came up when I was conversing with my coworker and she was telling me she no longer felt "sexy", I then asked her what her definition was. So she made a list: positive attitude, calm, nurturing, smart, athletic, well dressed, healthy, good hygiene, and funny.
I made a list as well, but I really just wrote down qualitities described in Proverbs 31, and more of a what a women should be list. My list: hardworking, intelligent, wise, calm, helps the poor, trustworthy, does good, strong and dignified, not fearful nor timid, fears God, attractive but what they do/ who they are not how they look.
Then we looked up the dictionary definition of sexy: 1. concerned predominantly or excessively with sex. 2. Sexually interesting or exciting. 3. Excitingly appealing; glamorous.
Another one of my coworkers made a list and her's was: gentleman, handsome, funny, charming, nice, confident, sweet, sincere, honest, assertive, goal-oriented, and passionate.

In my church we gathered together as young women and processed through what it means to be female, sexual and a christian. We used a white board to break up into sections our thoughts. The worled mixes up our thoughts on who we are supposed to be, and we discovered that the world tell women pretty unhealthy things- and very opposite to the bible. I think being sexy has nothing to do with what is on the outside. It's not large breasts, dark tans, big hair or lips.

In the beggining, Adam and Eve are connected. With each other, the earth, God- they are naked and feel no shame. And they fall, and there is instant disconnection. Rob Bell says in his book Sex God that "The woman is told that there is going to be conflict between her and the man. The man is told that there is going to be conflict between him and the soil. And this is where you and I come in. We were born into a world, into a condition, of disconnection. Things were created to be a certain way, and they're not that way, and we feel it in every fiber of our being. We're severed and cut off and disconnected in a thousand ways, and we know it...And so from a early age we have this awareness of the state of disconnection we were born into, and we have a longing to reconnect...the word sex is related to the Latin word secare, which means 'to sever, to amputate, or to disconnect from the whole'. This is where we get words like sect, section, dissect...Sexy is when it feels good to be in your own skin. Your own body feels right, it feels comfortable. Sexy is when you love being you. It starts with being sexy on the inside."

Secare.Maybe that is why there is such a emphasis on sex being for marriage because the bible says you become one, and when you are one- you are forever connected. And the connection is what being sexual is. Your sexy because you are rooted, you are comfortable.

Being Sexy is loving who you are.